Hit me up on skype sometime and I'll try to help you out. You can't just explain it in writing because it would take a book to do that. You can use Intellisearch and record 10-20 sites to see if they all have the same forms in common. Put your urls in a text file, pull the first one and delete it, go to the site and hopefully Intellisearch will find what you are looking for.
I personally don't use Intellisearch too much as I am old school and search for page attributes, but according to developers Intellisearch is the way to go.